Wake up to better relationships

" We all want to believe in forever or happily ever after but in reality there is only time to make all things as good as possible for as long as they are destined to last." NosaJ

  The happily ever after that so many seek begins with and exists within the journey that is the life story and not the end. The end is usually sad because it is the end & it either means saying goodbye to a loved one or losing someone  that was special to you. Do not wait for the end to make it any relationship a happy story. Make it a better story before it gets to the end..

I have never liked goodbyes but I am aware that goodbye is an inevitable fact of life. That is what makes some relationships very important while they exist or are alive and that is also what makes your approach to all your current relationships vital to your own well being and personal growth.

  I have come to one indisputable and irrefutable conclusion about life and that is that all our lives are about relationships . Life is about many things but there is no escaping the relationship factor. Our relationships have the capacity to fill us us with joy or sadness, with satisfaction or dissatisfaction, with pleasures or pain, with hope or despair, with the positive or negative. They can give us confidence or instill fear and doubt in us.They can make us feel invincible or they can make us feel  vulnerable. they can make us feel complete or incomplete.
 
  The better our relationships are, the better we feel and when they are not so good, the more terrible we feel. Each relationship also has the capacity to have a ripple effect and affect all others. No relationship is perfect and each is subject to the fluctuation effect of swinging back and forth in-between good and bad but not necessarily landing on either forever after. If it is true that better relationships can make you feel better, then it would make a lot of sense to make better relationships a priority.
 
   It does not matter at what stage of life you find yourself, you are still and are always going to be affected by your relationships. A child grows up to be a happy, sad, focused or confused person partly based on their childhood relationships and even the relationship between their parents. A wife is affected by her relationship with her husband and the husband affected by his relationship with his wife. Both are affected by their independent relationships and circumstances. Friends are affected in a good or bad way by friendship.
 
  If your relationships at work are not good, then you are not going to feel too great about getting up and going to work or being at work. If your personal relationship or marriage is in turmoil, then you might not be in a hurry to get back home or you might be thinking too much about a lover or having an affair, instead of how to improve your most valuable relationship.
 
   Even if there is no one in your life it is still about your relationship with yourself. Even if you are a loner it is still about relationships through a service that you might provide or that others provide to you. Even if you were the last person on earth it would still be about your relationship with yourself, with nature and the universe. Unfortunately you cannot run away from yourself, so this might be the most important relationship that you have to work on.  Ironically the impact of your relationship with yourself will touch every other relationship the most, for better or for worst.  The nature of your relationship with others also has its own ripple effect and so you have to try and make all relationships as good as possible or better.
   
   I once read about a married couple that went to the beach with their children for an uncoupling ceremony. It may be unusual because divorce is the norm for us humans but it also struck me as unique. It can get tiresome reading or hearing about divorce or how one partner is trying to take the others to the financial cleaners. The ceremony also struck me as unique because it was not a war, it was not a custody battle, it was not negative and no one was getting hurt. It was amicable, financially smart and they were still one happy family. No doubt they will encounter some relationship issues along the way,but it is a better relationship for them than marriage or divorce.
 
  I would rather have an amicable relationship sprinkled with some love, rather than none at all or one that is a war. I would rather be in the arms of someone who has love for me rather than in the arms of someone who has none or  ulterior motives for holding me in their arms. I would rather have one or two extra ordinary friends, than a multitude that hold no real value. I would rather have my children grow up to be happy people rather than lost, confused, or rich and lonely.  I refuse to allow any work environment to pour negativity into me but instead I would rather pour some positive energy into it.

  Ultimately it is as we make it or contribute towards the nature of our relationships. They do not happen by themselves. Wake up and think about your relationships and how you would like to make them better. Think about your loved ones and take note how that makes you feel. Give someone you love a hug. Give someone at work a surprise hug and see how that makes you both feel.
  
 

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