Wake up and don't look for perfeKtion

 " If we wait until we are ready, we'll be waiting for the rest of our lives"
                                      Lemony Snicket
 
  We wake up and we look for our keys, unless of course you are very well organized and meticulous. We wake up reluctantly and look for what to wear and if we have time look for something to eat before heading out to work or grab it and go. We prepare ourselves for and look forward to the perfect day. If we did wait until we were ready to go to work, that might actually take all day for some of us. In other words we are prompted to act and the day does not wait for us. The day does not tell us either that `I am going to be perfect for you today.' It is as good or as bad as you think it is or as you allow it to be or make it.

  If you are reading this and have come this far, I say that to say this. You have seen the sun rise again. You have been given the gift of another day. You have been given another day full of opportunities and of choices to make. You have been given the gift of now AKA today but not the gift of a perfect day. The gift of today combined with the gift of free will is yours to unwrap or unfold as you wish and how you unwrap it, will determine how great the gift of today is.

  The simple truth is that you do not look to any gift for perfection. You look for the intention of the gift and the purpose that it serves. There may be such a thing as a bad gift but definitely not the gift of today, of Monday or any other day. There will always be some bad days to life also, but if you look carefully at the gift you will see the opportunity and goodness to most days. If you are looking for the perfect day, you may not find it even on a good day, because there is only so much time to each day and not everything you want to accomplish can be accomplished in a day. As they say `Rome was not built in a day and it was not perfect either but it was great. It also served a purpose and so ask yourself the intent of the day and what purpose can be served?

  The more positive you are the less negativity can affect you. It is a simple rule of positive law. The less you allow negativity to affect you the clearer your purpose and there lies a great day for you. It is not the environment or other people that matter so much as you, how you perceive things, how you feel and what you do about it. I have been in enough negative environments and among negative people to know that much. You have to flip the coin and see the beauty to things, to even negative people or situations. See the bigger picture, see the reflection of  Grace and the divine and you can shine through the day, no matter what.

  One of the reasons that some relationships fail is that one person or both, one party or both are looking for perfection, which does not either exist or cannot be attained. Relationships like each day are a gift which does not require perfection but we look for it anyway. We look for what we already have, like a cell phone you upgrade that does not necessarily require an upgrade. We look for something or someone else that is not necessarily going to be more majestic or better than what already is. Okay maybe the upgraded cell phone might look more majestic but it might not work as well for you as the one you had. It may have some new features and of course new apps, but it will not be perfect either.
 
  When you wake up and look at your partner, if you have a partner, do not look for the perfection in them.
Simply see the beauty to them, for none of us are perfect but there is some beauty to all of us. We are also a combination of the positive and the negative. There is more positivity to some people than others and more negativity to some than others for different reasons or for one reason or another. The point is to see the positive more than you see the negative and not to look for the absolute positive or focus on the negatives. The same applies to your day. Look for the positive and not the negative.
 
  Perfection is greatly associated with perception that is linked to a particular reality. It is also a condition that is expected of someone, something or somewhere. If you link it to love or to any of your relationships then such love or the relationship is not unconditional for it expects the condition of perfection. If perfection is a condition that does not exist or cannot be attained to any particular relationship then along comes dissatisfaction and or great disappointment . This subsequently leads to the collapse of the particular relationship to which perfection is attached.
 
  Think of your Children, if you have children and what they expect of you or have expected from you in the past. Think of what you expect of them, the discussions and sometimes arguments that you have had with them and what it was about. You might find that it was about the expectation of perfection. You belong to different generations and the expectations are different but the focus is related to perfection. They want you to be the perfect parent for them and also to present yourself in a particular way to their world, their generation. You want them to be perfect, a certain way, Get all A's and do better than you did.

  My parents were like that and maybe I am too. Now that I think about it, they were not perfect but they were great. They were the greatest. They were the best parents that I could have asked for myself. I already know my children do not think I am perfect and that is okay with me. We coincide and we collide but at the end of any given day we are family. I am not aiming for perfection but I like to think that I am doing a good job as parent and that they see or perceive me as a good parent. 
 
 The simple truth is that we are not perfect, not when we were children, not as children, not as parents or as adults. If we were, we would not make a single mistake along the way. No one is perfect and life is not perfect either.  Neither life, love, work, family, projects, things like your car, the game plan nor every day always goes according to plan and neither do people. You can try and be perfect at who you are and how you do things and no doubt you become better at what you do and who you are but to transfer the expectation or perception of perfection to everyone else in your life and everything else to the day or life, can transform the perception and expectation of perfection into disappointment.
 
 No doubt you have heard of the question or phrase `Is your cup half empty or is it half full?" My question is does it really matter? What matters is the that there is something of substance in your cup. What matters is the essence of what is in your cup and what matters even more is how you are, how you use what you have and how you appreciate what you have given, so far. Each day must come to pass and tomorrow is another day to improve on what was or was not today.
  
  Appreciate today and appreciate each day as it comes to you. Take what you are given and make it as good a day as possible. Appreciate the people you love or who love you also and are usually there for you, in spite of all their wonderful imperfections.
 
 
 
 
 
 

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