Wake up & think positive
I love words and how they can have so many definitions, how they can be subject to interpretation, how they can inspire or hurt and the word humble or humbleness is no different when it comes to definition, interpretation or use. The reason I am using the word and thought of humbleness as the subject here arises from a discussion with my good learned friend KJ from In-Zone Coaching.
Humble is defined by Dictionary.com as not being proud or arrogant but modest. It also defines humble as having a feeling of insignificance, inferiority, subservience, being low in rank, being courteously respectful, low in height or small in size.
The focus here is not being proud or arrogant but being modest, courteous and respectful. One with a feeling of insignificance can still be arrogant to hide inferiority but the confident person need not be arrogant. Being low in rank or small in size does not necessarily prevent arrogance either but being comfortable with self at any rank or of any size can foster humbleness.
There are moments to our lives when we know without a doubt that there are some things that we were supposed to do and did do but along comes another party to contradict the facts and make you question your own sanity. A good example is submitting a report to your supervisor or boss at work and a week later they are asking you for the same report or telling you that they are still waiting for the report. Another example is working on your Doctorate thesis and you have submitted what you are supposed to but you are informed by your professor that it has not yet been submitted.
What do you do? Do you forward them a copy of the e-mail and report that was previously sent and replied to or do you play the humble role and just send the report without any insinuation? The insinuation indicates that they were wrong but what good does proving them wrong do? What good does proving them wrong do, especially if you need them to meet your own ends? It does not prove you do be the better person either, because everyone makes mistakes and so why not be humble about it? Why not be modest and courteously respectful about the matter or most daily and ordinary matters.
There is no need to make a crisis out of many a drama and there is no need to add fuel to fire that needs no more fuel or needs to be extinguished. Humbleness facilitates a certain calmness and frame of mind that promotes civility of relationships. It is not so much about who is right or wrong but more about how can we resolve the matter. It is not so much about size or status or subservience but having some regard and respect for others, irrespective of their flaws.
Great leaders posses the element of humbleness and even success in life requires some degree of humbleness. It is a positive trait that can be applied to any relationship and in any role. It can prevent a lot of negativity in personal and or professional relationships. It can promote a parent/child relationship where the humble parent is not only teacher but also a student and learns from their child.
There may of course come a time or times when you have to take the gloves of humbleness off in any relationship but always remember that being humble is a positive character trait that should serve you well in your personal and professional relationships.