Once you have made up your mind to do something and you do it, only then will you find true satisfaction. Another way of looking at it is as fulfilling your goals or the combination of intention and action materializing the results that you seek. The result of not being able to make up your mind is
conflict, a lot of unfinished business and a series of dissatisfaction.
What do you want to do? Where do you want to be? Who do you want to be? Who do you want to be with? These are some of the primary key questions that we struggle with as we journey through life and not even realize it. Alternatively we do realize them or have to ignore them too often due to the distractions of what we do now and where we are in order to comply with the primary directive and imperative called survival.
There are also other human directives and imperatives called peace of mind, fulfillment and happiness, that we tend to override according to the wrong answers that we attach to these questions and the wrong direction that we follow. We sometimes have time to ask the universe for guidance and directions are provided but alas, we fail to see the signs or fail to follow them.
I have always believed and still hold that life is a journey. It is not a straight forward journey and it is not meant to be so, or there would be nothing to learn from the journey and from life. I also believe like Souza that happiness is a journey but it is also a destination.
Happiness is a destination , because we are always at a destination and even more importantly we are the destination. You are the destination. Think about it?. Being in the womb or a test tube is the beginning of the destination but for nine months or thereabouts that was your destination. Childhood was a destination as was being a teenager, until you left it to become an adult. Marriage is a destination where not everyone stays but is final for some. Being is a parent is a destination, where there is no going back, even after your children are gone or at their own destinations ,unless of course your children divorce you .
Were you happy as a child or a teenager? If you were that was of course a good start to the happiness journey and to all other destinations that have followed. The happiness journey can also of course be interrupted along the way and unhappiness can become the rest of the journey, if you allow it to be so or allow anyone or any place to make it so. This is the junction at which you have to make up your mind.
You have to ask yourself what makes you happy because if you do not know what makes you happy, you will not recognize happiness when you see it as part of the journey or as the destination. That brings us back to the original question of
`What do you want to do as a part of your journey? Where do you want to be? Who do you want to be? Who do you want to be with you as part of your journey or the destination? '
Let there be no fantasies to these questions or answers, let there be no illusions and be true to yourself and own reality in making up your own mind about your future happiness. I say let there be no fantasies or illusions because it's not about a windfall happening. It is about how you think, about using the resources available to you and ultimately about the choices you make.
The distractions are never going to go away unless you make them go away time and time again. Focus
on the journey and the destination in mind. be persistent with the questions and answers and the distractions diminish. Make up your mind and make it happen. The negativity is not going to go away unless you make up your mind for it to go away or override it again and again with positivity.
The journey that is happiness requires you to make up your mind to be happy and get to your destination that is also called happiness. The best example that I can give to this paradox is parenthood. This is a journey and a destination. It is a journey with children that holds so much of life, many distractions and frustrations but also much fulfillment and happiness, until you journey on and to another destination called `Grandparent'.
Think of what makes you happy and do it. Think of the people that make you safe, happy or smile and keep them in mind as you continue the greatest journey of all....Life.
Jason.U @ MondayMorningPositivity